Our Wedding Website

Apparently no one can do anything these day without a website.  And that includes getting married.

Your humble blogger is no exception.

Around the beginning of the year, The Partner created an account at http://www.theknot.com (as in ‘tying the’), one of those wedding planning websites, and it has been quite handy in the planning of our October nuptials.

First of all, knot.com allows us to create our own wedding website for our family and friends (and the invitees) to view photos of the happy couple, get directions to the wedding, see where we are registered etc.  I’ve been told that The Knot is a magazine as well (and the wedding site is an offshoot of that), but since my own magazinial tastes run more toward the TLS, Atlantic, The New Yorker and Harpers, I really wouldn’t know.

Our wedding website

The knot dot com also allows The Partner and I to perform practical wedding planning: the guest list, hold the date emails, to do lists, notes, bulletin board where we can commiserate with others, and of course the know dot com has a wedding budget calculator.

Ah yes, the budget!

It’s a shame the knot dot com cannot actually keep one (or their Partner) to the budget (but  more about our incredible ever-expanding wedding budget in a later blog).

The guest list includes addresses and emails for each invitee.  Each time one of our RSVP cards is returned, I update the guest list on knot dot com to keep track of who accepted who hasn’t.  That’s much better than the back of an old envelope (white I had been using to keep track of guests).

One of the most useful sections is the “Checklist”, this warns us of things that must be done that week/month.  It also lets us know where things are overdue (with a red ominous looking graphic clock).

Right now we are behind on a few thing:

  • Finalize menu and service details with caterer.
  • Book hotel room for your wedding night.
  • Grooms: If you are renting a tux, visit the formal wear shop to get measured.
  • Pick out or design a ketubah or other marriage contract required by your religion.

You know, I never noticed what a nag this website could be before.  And I have no clue what a ketubah is, but there is a little red clock beside it so I had better find out.

The knot dot com is also gay friendly (I certainly wouldn’t be using if they weren’t)… there are a number of gay and lesbian couples with websites in there.  The Gay Groom has looked over their websites too… as I am always on the lookout for unique wedding ideas that I can appropriate (steal and pretend are my own) from the more creative gays among us.

65 days to go.

Jeffrey, The Gay Groom



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3 responses to “Our Wedding Website

  1. Congratulations! It’s great to see marriage equality starting to happen (albeit slowly) in this country.

    I got married in July, and theknot.com was what we used as well. Fantastic tool; we had about half of our attendees RSVP online.

  2. Interesting that the knot suggests that you’re slightly behind on finalizing the menu with the caterer. Our venue also serves as our caterer, and they don’t need menu choices and preliminary counts until next month sometime (and we’re marrying a week earlier than you) and final information only a couple of weeks beforehand. We’ve made menu choices, of course, but only just this past week, because we needed to have that available on our website when our guests RSVP so they can make a selection.

    We took a leap of faith and did not provide return envelopes with the invitations; in an effort to try to reduce the amount of paper used, and to save on printing and postage, our reply cards direct our invitees to respond only online, though I did include our phone number for one aging aunt who doesn’t have a computer.

    The ketubah is a marriage document formally used as part of a Jewish wedding, signed by witnesses during the ceremony, traditionally under the chuppah.

    Quaker weddings have something similar, and we’re going with a modified version of this for our own wedding. A friend offered, as a wedding present, to have a document calligraphed for this purpose. We wrote the language that will be included on it, and immediately after the outdoor ceremony, but before the luncheon begins, we’ll start the reception by signing it and inviting all our friends and family present to come sign it as witnesses:

    On this, the twenty-sixth day of September of the year two thousand nine,

    Jeffrey Steve Tabaco
    Burlen Thomas Watson, III

    Did gather together with their family and friends in San Francisco, California,
    to hold a ceremony of their commitment to one another.

    On this joyous occasion each took the other by the hand
    and promised his lifelong love, support and understanding.

    In celebration of this commitment, and as a pledge of our love, we set our hands below.

    [Jeff’s signature] [Thom’s signature]

    And we, having been present at the occasion of this commitment,
    also set our hands and hearts in witness and support of this union.

    [space for witnesses’ signatures]

  3. Mazal Tov! You need a ketubah? I make them. The ketubah is especially significant for gay couples, because in many states, it is the only wedding contract you will have. Check out my stuff!

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