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Jeffrey on… Swimming with Sharks in Bora Bora

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Swimming with sharks in Bora Bora

Jeffrey takes his vlog to the shark-infested waters of Bora Bora.

Used my new underwater camera. Probably not the best audio so just enjoy the view 🙂

That one shark did come too close for comfort.

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Jeffrey’s All-Gay Atlantis Tahiti Cruise Photo Blog (Warning: A Few Bare Asses Ahead)

 

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Moorea, Tahiti

Since the Gay Groom is at capacity for photos, I posted my Tahiti gay cruise photos to my Jeffrey Luscombe blog.

Click on the link below to view:

https://jeffreyluscombe.wordpress.com/2016/04/14/jeffreys-atlantis-all-gay-tahiti-cruise-photo-blog-warning-a-few-bare-asses-ahead/

Enjoy!

Jeffrey

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April 13, 2016 · 11:42 pm

Jeffrey Swimming with Sharks (Lots and Lots of Sharks)

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Jeffrey Getting Too Close to Sharks in Tahiti

Here is your humble blogger snorkeling with sharks and stingrays in Bora Bora. I seem to drift a tad too close to the sharks at the end…

Look for more videos and photos of our Tahitian vacation posted soon.

Shark!

And even more sharks!

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Kiss Me, I’m 37.5% Irish!!

Here is a repost of last year’s St. Patrick’s Day Post (I’m still 3/8 Irish). Enjoy! 

Your humble blogger is 3/8 Irish.

Finding out that I was Irish (even 37.5% Irish) actually came as quite a surprise to me.  It wasn’t until I was well in my 30s that we learned of my Irish background.  It was after my family (being the nosy bunch they are) had sent away for the military records of my maternal grandfather who (as it turns out) was from Dublin, Ireland.

Now it wasn’t that my grandfather was secretive of his county of origin, instead he was a chronic alcoholic who ran off when my mother was only five years old.  So we knew very little about him.  That was until his military records shone some light on the bum.    In fact, what we learned from the military records of both my maternal and paternal grandparents are worth a blog or two themselves.

But I digress.

Learning that I was Irish was actually rather exciting to me.  Being a writer, I felt a greater kinship with all those great Irish writers:  James Joyce, Oscar Wilde and Jonathan Swift (and the poets) William Butler Yeats and Seamus Heaney.  Suddenly I understood the Circe episode in Joyce’s Ulysses (well, maybe 3/8 of it).

But looking back, I really should have known I was Irish all along.  After all, green is my favourite colour.  And I always liked potatoes, George Clooney and Irish whiskey… and I loved those old Shamrock Shakes they used to have at McDonalds.

However, it turned out that my paternal Irish grandfather was also a member of The Church of England (protestant), or so his enlistment form for the WWII stated.  So the question arises:  Does an atheist like myself who was descended from a protestant Irishman celebrate the Catholic St. Patrick’s Day?

Sure he does!

In fact, I celebrated St. Patrick’s Day before I even knew I was Irish.  This may surprise you but before your humble blogger gave up the juice about a decade ago, he drank more green beer than he’d really like mention.

Let’s just say it was more than a couple of pitchers in my day.

Though Guinness always tasted to me like a beer that someone had stuck a cigarette butt in.  Not my thing.  But as I said, I’m only 3/8 Irish.  Perhaps it takes a bit more to appreciate the stuff.

I’m digressing again.

And then The Gay Groom married the Husband who (incidentally) is named Sean Patrick.

And when you are married to someone named Sean Patrick, celebrating St. Patrick’s day is kind of a given.  It is now an annual event to watch to the  parade wind down Yonge Street in Toronto the Sunday before St. Patrick’s Day to see the Husband’s ‘clan’ go march by.

I don’t have a clan.

And did you know that (like Santa Claus in a Christmas parade) it is Saint Patrick himself that ends the St. Patrick’s Day parade?  I thought the Husband was joking when he told me that.   They find some poor old guy to dress up in green like an Irish pope to close the parade.  But Saint Patrick isn’t what you’d call jolly like Old Saint Nick.

In fact, he’s sort of creepy.

Maybe it’s his dress.  Or those little white gloves my mother wore in 1962.  Or perhaps it’s the enormous cross on his chest (never a good sign).   It rather looked like Saint Patrick just wanted the parade over with so he could get off his throne and go for a green beer himself.

So whether you are Irish or not (0r some fraction like your humble blogger), have yourself a Happy St. Patrick’s Day!!  And remember: if you start peeing green, you’ve had enough green beer.

Erin go Bragh!!!

Jeffrey, The Gay Groom

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Happy Valentine’s Day From Jeffrey

Your humble blogger had to put down his heart-shaped box of chocolates long enough to write his blog.

Valentine’s Day has gotten a bit of a bum rap lately.  People seemed to have turned on arrowed Cupid faster than Justin Beiber (Bieber? I don’t care, actually).

Yes, I get that Valentine’s Day is a pseudo-holiday made up by the greeting card, flower and chocolate industries.  Yes, I get we are being duped into spending money for trinkets we don’t need to express our feelings of affection.  Yes, I know Saint Valentine was, according to legend, imprisoned, beaten with clubs, stoned and ultimately had his head chopped off.

Not very romantic, I must say.

But that’s far too unpleasant and I like to keep my blogs positive.  So I choose not to dwell on the real and instead pretend to fall for all the sentimental nonsense, if just to get my aforementioned heart-shaped box of chocolates.

And your humble blogger has been blessed with the ability to view almost everything ironically (for example, the use of the word ‘blessed’ above was ironic).

This morning the Husband and I exchanged Valentine’s Day cards.

Luckily, we live in a city where it’s easy to pick up gay greeting cards.  I’m sure if we lived in Wyoming or Idaho (where Walmart is considered a distinguished luxury retailer) it could be a tad more difficult to get a gay-themed greeting card.  Though even then, I suppose with a little planning one could purchase a card on the internet for delivery from the many gay-positive greeting card companies out there.  It should be noted that these are often more expensive than straight themed cards.  I was told this was due to smaller print runs and not because these “gay-owned” or “gay-friendly” companies are just gouging us.… and since it’s Valentine’s Day, I’m willing to buy that (more irony).

Many straight men see Valentine’s Day as a day specifically for women (where the man must fork out for flowers, chocolate, cards etc. to women – or else) and I recently have heard of men creating a, dare I say, “tongue-in-cheek” movement to have March 14 (one month after Valentine’s Day) be a declared a day for women giving back to the men.   The proposed name of this day?  Steak and Blowjob Day.

Straight people can be amusing.

So tonight the husband and I will be headed to a restaurant in the gay village in Toronto for an overpriced romantic meal (I’m hoping they have Ontario lamb on the menu… or maybe the duck).  Not that we limit ourselves only to restaurants in the gay village, most of the time we don’t (as most of the food is terrible in the village).  But it was the Husband’s year to choose.

And after dinner, we’ll share a dessert at home.

Where, ironically, we don’t have to wait until March 14.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Jeffrey, The Gay Groom

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Naked Book Club: Now this should be interesting

Screen Shot 2014-10-04 at 7.18.24 PMLet it not be said that I don’t go all out for my readers.

I was asked if the rumour was true that a naked book club in Toronto was going to read and discuss my novel, Shirts and Skins.

Yes, they are.

I was also asked if the rumour was true that I was going to attend said naked book club to discuss my novel with them.

Yes, I am.

Finally, I was also asked whether I was going to be clothed or naked at said book club this Thursday.

You will have to wait for the next blog to find out.

Jeffrey, The Gay Groom

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Am I a ‘Daddy’ Now?

50 Year old designer cum director Tom Ford with younger pals.

For Father’s Day, a re-post of my Daddy blog:

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The husband gave me an Instinct Magazine for my forty-third birthday last Sunday with the article “How I Went from Daddy Chaser to Being the Daddy”.

The husband likes to think he’s funny.

The article was a short fluff piece (kinda like this, though I’m sure the writer got paid for his piece) about turning 40.  Not that I have anything against fluff pieces…

Now your humble blogger really doesn’t mind turning forty-three.   Though I do know that I don’t turn heads like I once did.  Canadian author Alice Munro wrote a short story about a woman who suddenly discovers that men don’t notice her anymore and is devastated.  For me, that realization came over a number of years.   Yet I still do recall the days when I believed that any man that didn’t look at me when I walked into a bar had to be straight.

Perhaps I was a tad conceited in my youth.

But that really doesn’t happen anymore.  Though I still might get a couple of turns of the head…  and, much even to my surprise, I’m amazingly alright with that.

Especially since I was (as I said) a tad conceited in my youth.

Perhaps my nonchalant attitude is partly due to being married.  Just who am I trying to impress?  And for heaven’s sake why would I need to impress anyone (this ‘I don’t give a damn’ attitude comes with age too)?  After all, I have a husband at home who loves me – laugh lines around my eyes and all!

So today ‘Daddydom’ feels rather like slipping into a warm bathtub – a little hot at first but quite comfortable once you get used to it.  I remember being told by a boyfriend that when I was a mere thirty years old that I had a “pre-daddy thing goin’ on”.  I didn’t like that, but the truth is I sorta felt ‘daddyish’ for quite some time.  Perhaps because I never really related to younger guys – and from the beginning, I’ve always been attracted to men that were older (not Methuselaha older – just a bit older).

Yes, I do like those salt and pepper haired men – or even just salt.  And there is always that confidence that mature men seemed to possess that the younger chaps didn’t.

But though I do like older men, it used to irritate me to see mature gay men wearing clothes made for youngsters. We’ve all seen those forty and fifty-somethings in ripped jeans and Abercrombie and Fitch t-shirts… still hitting the raves after twenty years – sometimes looking every twenty long years of it – but then your humble blogger tried to be more thoughtful.

After all, we are really the first full generation of out gay men to make it to middle-age.

And we should allow this lucky generation to find their own way.  So if some older gay guys out there still like to wear Abercrombie and Fitch when their straight counterparts have moved on to the Arnold Palmer collection from Sears – what the hell.  And if they want to Rave to 90s music till the cows come home – what’s it to me?

Who am I to be so judgmental anyway?

And I have to admit that some of those older guys still look good in Abercrombie and Fitch.

So what do you think?  When does one become a ‘Daddy’?  Or does one need to become a ‘Daddy’ at all?  Could it be that the term is outdated?  Are there any other silver fox admirers out there?

Jeffrey, The Gay Groom

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Sexy Daddies Anderson Cooper and Andy Cohen

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It’s So Hot the Toronto Island Ferry Took Off His Slip

Two things Canadians love to talk about are how hot it is and how cold it is.  Today this Canadian will be doing the former.

It’s bloody hot in Toronto.

Today we hit 35ºC (or 95ºF for my American readers).  However, with the humidex it felt like 42ºC or 107.6ºF.  I think we can actually describe that as ‘goddam hot’.

Now Toronto is great in the summer (not so much in February).  But right now it may be a tad hot to be shlepping across the city. But we aren’t the only ones melting. The heat is on all across North America.  Well all across North America EXCEPT the folks in the north west.

Look at this image from NPR showing the number of places in the US where daily maximum temperature records were broken in June. The data center says 2,284 records were broken and another 998 were tied.

That’s what global warming looks like.

Now there are a few ways to cool off in Toronto.  The city has set up cooling stations through the city for folks to get out of the heat of the street or (for those without air conditioning) the heat of their apartment, city pools are open until midnight, and we have a number of beaches in the city as well (being situated on Lake Ontario) including a nude beach on Toronto Island called Hanlan’s Point.

Sign on Toronto Island

Hanlan’s Point is pretty gay.

But anywhere there are naked men, gay men seem to pop up.  It was even through the efforts of a group of gay men in Toronto (TNT Men) that Hanlan’s Point became ‘officially’ clothing optional about a decade ago (unofficially it’s been clothing optional for about a hundred years).

And it’s changed since becoming all legitimate.

Back in the day there was nothing but the relentless sun on the sand at Hanlan’s Point (and the occasional rustling in the bushes along the sand-line), but today visitors can rent lounge chairs and umbrellas…  there is a snack bar and washrooms nearby and boats anchor by the shore.

The once alternative strip of freedom (where he risk of being charged with public nudity was all part of the fun) has now become a tourist area.  Suddenly there was an influx of lookie-loos – clothed folks trying to get a cheap thrill walking on the beach.

During Pride they even have a big dance party on the beach – I have never attended but I hear it’s a fun time.  Though I think I’d rather see people wearing at least some shorts when they’re dancing.

How about you?

Now your humble blogger has been in clothing optional beaches around the globe – Mykonos in Greece, Spain, France, Brazil…

And the guys (and even the gals) in Toronto’s can hold their own with those other places.

Though I don’t head to Hanlan’s Point too often anymore.  It requires a ferry ride… and a bit of a walk.  And since everyone has an iPhone (or equivalent) these days with a built-in camera and video recorder, what was once a fun one-off skinny dip can now result in your big white ass being put on Youtube before you dry yourself off.

iPhones giveth and they taketh away.

So I’m more inclined to wear my swim trunks these days.

Jeffrey, The Gay Groom

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It’s So Hot the Toronto Island Ferry Took Off His Slip

Two things Canadians love to talk about are how hot it is and how cold it is.  Today this Canadian will be doing the former.

It’s bloody hot in Toronto.

Today we hit 33ºC (or 91ºF for my American readers).  However, with the humidex it felt like 42ºC or 107.6ºF.  I think we can actually describe that as ‘goddam hot’.

And here we are still having the hockey finals still going on?

Now Toronto is great in the summer (not so much in February).  And June could be the best month to visit Toronto.  Of course we have Pride.  Toronto’s Pride is the largest gay pride celebration in North America – larger than either New York or San Francisco (Sydney Australia’s is the only one larger in the world).

There are a few ways to cool off in Toronto.  We have a number of beaches in the city (being situated on Lake Ontario) including a nude beach on Toronto Island called Hanlan’s Point.

Sign on Toronto Island

Hanlan’s Point is pretty gay.

But anywhere there are naked men, gay men seem to pop up.  It was even through the efforts of a group of gay men in Toronto (TNT Men) that Hanlan’s Point became ‘officially’ clothing optional about a decade ago (unofficially it’s been clothing optional for about a hundred years).

And it’s changed since becoming all legitimate.

Back in the day there was nothing but the relentless sun on the sand at Hanlan’s Point (and the occasional rustling in the bushes along the sand-line), but today visitors can rent lounge chairs and umbrellas…  there is a snack bar and washrooms nearby and boats anchor by the shore.

The once alternative strip of freedom (where he risk of being charged with public nudity was all part of the fun) has now become a tourist area.  Suddenly there was an influx of lookie-loos – clothed folks trying to get a cheap thrill walking on the beach.

During Pride they even have a big dance party on the beach – I have never attended but I hear it’s a fun time.  Though I think I’d rather see people wearing at least some shorts when they’re dancing.

How about you?

Now your humble blogger has been in clothing optional beaches around the globe – Mykonos in Greece, Spain, France, Brazil…

And the guys (and even the gals) in Toronto’s can hold their own with those other places.

Though I don’t head to Hanlan’s Point too often anymore.  It requires a ferry ride… and a bit of a walk.  And since everyone has an iPhone (or equivalent) these days with a built-in camera and video recorder, what was once a fun one-off skinny dip can now result in your big white ass being put on Youtube before you dry yourself off.

iPhones giveth and they taketh away.

So I’m more inclined to wear my swim trunks these days.

Jeffrey, The Gay Groom

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Vancouver Can Wait (or Palm Springs Here We Come)

Our Palm Springs Holiday, March 2009

On my last blog I mentioned that I was going to be accompanying the Husband to Vancouver later this week.

But Vancouver will have to wait.

Instead (after some discussion and a report that it will be a cold and damp spring) we decided that a weekend in Vancouver just wouldn’t cut it.   So, (for a small 50 dollar fee) we changed my Vancouver flight to a Palm Springs for later in the month.

The husband and I had not intended to go south this year.  We had wanted to save a little money but (as it turned out) one can only take a long Canadian winter (that refuses to let go to spring) for only so long.

You win, Winter!

The husband and I just couldn’t make it through this whole miserable winter and the upcoming miserable spring without some vitamin D that doesn’t come in a pill.  That’s right, Winter kicked our butts.

So we will be spending a week sunning ourselves at a guesthouse in sunny Palm Springs, California.

And now that WestJet has a direct flight from Toronto right to Palm Springs, it makes getting there much easier (I won’t even go into the hassle we went through last year changing planes in Las Vegas).

Bring on the sun!

We also just put down our deposit for an Atlantis Mexican Riviera cruise in October.  It will be to celebrate  our second wedding anniversary.

Atlantis, as you may know,  is the big gay cruise line.

Our Altantis Honeymoon Cruise, October 2009

The Husband seems to enjoy cruising more than your humble blogger.  After a year of hard work, he likes to park himself on a ship and do nothing… while I’d rather be strolling through Paris again (though the Husband likes to call my strolls ‘forced marches’).  However, I am looking forward to the October cruise as well.

But more about gay cruising on a subsequent blog.

Right now I have to get ready for Palm Springs… can one lose twenty-five pounds in two week?

Jeffrey, The Gay Groom

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